Just Climb: Expect Nothing and Let Yourself Flow

Climbing is hard, no doubt about it. We push our bodies and minds to the limit, often in harsh conditions (hot, cold, humid, dusty, windy), getting psyched, disappointed, pumped, gloomy, angry, motivated, determined. We put in blood, sweat, and tears. We are heartbroken and we are ecstatic. We don’t give up. We should be fucking proud!

So why do we demand so much from ourselves? Why do we put so much pressure? Why is it so hard to be content even when we don’t send? Can those expectations brewing in our heads affect the way we climb?

This article won’t make you a better climber. Trust me, I wish I had some magic solution to quiet the mind for good and help you be in top physical and mental shape all the time. I don’t. I don’t think anyone has. I’m writing this in an attempt to better understand my own internal processes and, if you identify with any of the following, know you’re not alone. This article will have done its job, though, if it’ll push you to find your sweet spot, manage pressure, release expectations, and get into that state of flow and pure execution more often.

Rock climbing can read you like an open book

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As soon as you hop on the rock, climbing takes the pulse of your physical and mental shape. Yup, climbing can “see” right through you; not just how you’re feeling at the moment, but also how you’ve been in the past days, weeks, or more. It brings to the surface your anxiety, fear, doubt, random thoughts, excitement, lack of trust, expectations, self-judgment, and more.

Therefore, taking our high expectations up with us on a climb can lead to disappointment, which can be very consuming and self-destructive. So, what if we left our expectations down on the ground for a change?

Expectations can go both ways – we expect to be successful or we (unconsciously) expect to fail. When we expect neither, we enter this place of emptiness where anything can happen. It took me a long time to realize it’s when I enjoy myself, without expectations, self-judgment or pressure, only lightness in my heart, that I climb my best.

It can go well when we least expect it

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Looking back, I have some interesting recollections of how I felt before some memorable sends or impressive attempts on projects. Here are some examples:

• It’s the last day of the trip, so I might as well give it my all. My mindset is somewhere in between trying hard because I couldn’t afford to waste any more time, and being somewhat relaxed because those were my last shots, that was it. And what do you know, last try best try.

• Getting back on my project, I was making silly mistakes where I previously had no issues. I got angry, thought that was it, it would only go downhill from there. Took a moment to reset and I sent. Shifting my focus from my crux the “new crux”, I was relaxed where it mattered most.

• Going for an attempt before having the beta dialed in, I improvised and, with a clear mind and no expectations, I was able to find quick solutions. I trusted my body, there was no “script” (where it should go well, where it can go wrong), and I executed.

• Going climbing with PMS, I never know what to expect. Over the last years, I’ve learned to track my menstrual cycle and to look for the cues. I’ve also learned that the cues can be deceiving. So I just take whatever I can get. Even so, I’ve had some rad climbing sessions despite thinking I was too weak.

• Sometimes, the conditions suck – too humid, too cold, too hot, some of the holds are wet. But you say fuck it and get on it anyway. As if by magic, you get to the top. Or at least you have a damn good try.

• Last try of the day, I can feel the fatigue, I know those moves demand a lot, but I decide to give it one more go just to refine the beta. I surprise myself with a new highpoint or a send.

• Then, of course, there’s the classic “okay, I’m giving it one last try and I’m gonna clean it” and I send.

Why do things go so well when we least expect it? Is it because the ego is distracted or too tired to spiral out of control? Because we don’t care as much about the outcome anymore? Maybe because in the back of our minds we have some valid excuses if things don’t pan out and that helps release expectations?

Why do we expect so much from ourselves?

I know I can send the route and that plays in my head. I know I can mess it up, and that also plays in my head. If I can do it, why am I not sending it? Why is it taking so long? The more time I spend on it, the more I doubt I’ll ever succeed. I start to question myself, wondering what I’m doing wrong. All sorts of thoughts creep in and I judge myself so harshly.

Instead of being in the moment, I obsess over the outcome and that takes away all the fun.

When things don’t go my way, the ego, with its constant yapping, tells me that I’m not good enough, I suck, I should give up and crawl back to wherever I came from. It’s my mistake for listening to it when I should just tell it to shut the hell up and go on and enjoy myself.

Under pressure

Have you ever felt that pressure weighing you down when climbing with other people, having the impression that you need to perform your best because they’re judging you? If you’re struggling, you believe they’ll take pleasure in that, that they’ll think less of you. Whereas if you show them you’re “good”, you’ll be content, you’ve done a great job. That’s something psychologists call the Spotlight Effect and we often experience it in daily life, too. In reality, no one cares. Then there’s that pressure that we put on ourselves to be “good at climbing” all the time. That’s just unrealistic and it can really affect our relationship with climbing.

Climbing, by its nature, comes with a certain amount of pressure. We want to improve, we want to grow, we want to send, and we work very hard towards that, hence the expectations. The key is in managing that pressure and not letting our expectations determine who we are and change the way we view ourselves.

A little bit of pressure can give you a boost

It’s a fine line between not having expectations and not demanding anything from yourself. Careful not to fall into that trap. We should want more. It’s the getting sucked up in our own expectations that can harm us and put all that unnecessary pressure on ourselves.

The conditions are good so I should have a good try. My friends are here cheering so I should try hard. It’s the last day so I should give everything. I have it all dialed in so what am I waiting for. The list goes on…

We want to send and we expect to send. After all, that’s the goal and goals come with a certain amount of pressure. What do we do with it? Do we use it to motivate us, do drive us to push harder, or do we let it get to us? Things get in the way, there are lots of ups and downs, and we have to remember that most of climbing is about falling. If you’re not falling, you’re not trying hard enough, you’re still within your comfort zone. There it is, another example of that “good” kind of pressure we can use to give us an extra boost.

BUT it’s so easy to mistake falling for failing. With our eyes constantly on the prize, we overlook the journey. When we can finally enjoy the whole process and celebrate the small wins – figuring out the beta, the highpoints, the training, pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone – we will move the needle.

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The right mindset CAN shift gears

Climbing is more about the mind game than it is about physical strength. Yes, you do have to be strong, and the harder you want to climb the stronger you need to become. Yet physical strength does not amount to anything without the right mindset.

I still vividly remember hiking up to the crag feeling absolutely miserable. Life happens, and when it hits you, it hits you hard. I was depressed and I was only going up to get the gear down. When I got to the crag, I sat down, had a coffee, the weather was lovely, the place itself was stunning, and the route was just beautiful. I had to make a quick decision – sulk or climb? I picked the latter and I sent my project that day. The mind was empty I did not expect anything. All I wanted was a break from my misery, and climbing offered just that. My mental state started to improve from that moment on.

I have another interesting example. One time at the crag there was a little incident with some people who started yelling at us and acting like assholes. It sucks, yeah, but there are all sorts of people in this game and at some point you do run into them. Anyway, their behavior made me really mad only minutes before getting on my project; I could feel that vein twitching in my temple. I was already tied in so I went on it regardless. Not only did I send the route, it was one of my best “performances” – I was taking long breaths in, letting out loud exhales, telling myself “yeah, you may ruin the vibe at the crag but I’m not gonna let you ruin my day”. I had no expectations, I did not think more than one or two moves ahead. I managed to transform all that negative energy into something powerful. I was on fire!

You see, the emotions we experience at the crag are very important – they can lift us up or pull us down. For example, I’ve found that a small amount of anger, if channeled in the right direction, gets my engine roaring, it gives me a bit more oomph. It also shifts my attention and quiets the mind. On the other hand, if I’m way too excited or nervous or feel like I need to prove something, I need to take a step back and just chill. And of course, self-pity just gets me nowhere.

There is no one-size-fits-all solution. All in all, I have to find a way to get out of my head in THAT moment.

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When everything falls into place

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Have you ever felt like you’re going to send?

I’ve had (very few) sublime moments when I knew I was going to send. Okay, that feeling does not actually guarantee the send, I’d say I’ve had a 60/40 success rate when that happened.

It’s hard to describe it – I tie in, I breathe, I get on and after a few moves I know it’s game on. Everything flows. The mind is empty, there’s only the next move, so much control in my hands and feet, I enjoy it, it doesn’t feel as hard anymore (even though it still is). I am aware of every movement, each position, everything’s in sync. It’s like I’m both the actor and the spectator. AND I have no expectations, only that serene feeling that everything is just as it should be.

Have I learned anything?

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I’ve had many days at the crag moping around because I couldn’t climb like I wanted to. In the past, I would let these “bad days” get to me. Instead of taking things as they were, getting over it fast, I would linger in self-pity, which would only continue to pull me down. No one cares about my “good” or “bad” days but me. My ego is the one that has expectations and feels pressure where there is none.

I’ve been climbing for a long time and for most of this time, there was something missing. I struggled to find those missing pieces of the puzzle, blaming it on training, nutrition, weight, and all sorts of things. All this time, the answer was in my mind game.

What is different now?

I still have moments of disappointment, doubt, shame, self-pity, self-victimization, drama, feeling like I wanna crawl under a rock and disappear. I still cry sometimes when I don’t send. The difference now compared to a few years ago is that these moments are fleeting.

I take more care of myself and my emotions, I’m kinder to myself, I take breaks from projects when I start to get too obsessed over them. I approach climbing with a lot more confidence and ease, enjoying the whole process a lot more, regardless of the grade. All in all, I have a lot more fun. I’ve finally come to realize that each hold squeezed for an extra second, every movement initiated while desperately pumped, every step higher above the bolt, every whipper, every try hard scream, will eventually pay off.

Lately, I’ve been practicing this “ritual” – after tying in and chalking up, before I touch the rock, I take a deep breath and tell myself that I am leaving everything on the ground, there’s nothing else but the climb in front of me, the now, the journey. I tell myself to let everything go and let whatever happens happen.

No, I haven’t completed the whole puzzle yet. Perhaps I never will. But at the very least, I can feel it coming together.